I’m convinced that the great majority of mankind struggles daily with the little voice that constantly whispers, You don’t matter and what you do doesn’t matter.” The exponential increase in diagnosed depression and suicide rates over the past decade would seem to confirm that theory.

When we feel that we don’t matter, we feel that we have no value. The rush to find alternate identities in today’s world is, I think, a clear side effect of feeling worthless and having no compelling purpose for our life. If I feel worthless as the person I am, perhaps, I can find worth in another identity or, at least, in a group with a strong identity that I might share. So, we see teens and young adults discarding the gender identity God gave them and opting for another. In a world where transgenders have taken on celebrity status, it’s no wonder that many young people are attaching themselves to that wave in an effort to feel special or revolutionary. The thought makes them feel as if they matter. The problem is that is doesn’t work..at least, not for long. Suicide rates for transexuals are much higher than the rest of the population. Gender is really not the issue. Trying to find value, meaning, and love is the driving force behind nearly everything man does or tries.

For those that don’t opt to try a new gender identity, it seems that many are attempting to find identity by partnering with political groups driven by a world view that those in their party have been cheated and abused by a world that makes it impossible for them to succeed or find happiness. There is a certain feeling of power that comes with anger, rage, blaming others, and burning buildings. For a while, that feeling of empowerment and belonging will bolster an identity, but it won’t last because it is all external. After a while, the “victim card” simply makes us feel more alienated and even more disempowered rather than valuable. After that realization, comes depression, medicating and, perhaps, suicide.

One off the great blessings of the gospel is the evidence that we do matter. Our life does have purpose. Someone loves us so much that he has invested everything in us, including the suffering and death of his own Son The problem is that many believers still feel worthless. I think that is because we can feel loved as a group, but not as an individual. What I mean by that is we think that God loves all of his children generically…as a group. It’s like when celebrities declare their love for all their fans…but wouldn’t know one if they bumped into them on the street. When I think of God loving the world…I may still feel like just a face in the crowd. That is why I need to know that God knows me and loves me as a unique individual and has invested himself in me and my personal destiny from before the foundation of the world.

I love Psalms 139. David wrote, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them” (Ps. 139:13-17)

We are so personally known by God that he was involved in our very creation. It seems that at the moment of conception, God establishes an identity in us. Yes…he chooses our gender but also our personality, our temperament, and our talents. Then, he shapes our purpose by establishing a unique future that fits the individual God has made us to be. It is impressive that God has taken the time to craft a future for us that will bless us and others, and has written everyday of that future in a book in heaven before we are ever born. That already is a huge investment of thought, time, and energy that God has poured into each of us individually.

In addition, one possible translation of the phrase,”How precious to me are your thoughtsS O God,” is “How precious are your thoughts about me, O God! How vast is the sum of them.” Contextually, that fits very well with the David’s thought. God dreams us, designs us, creates us, and lays out a future for us even before birth. After that, he thinks about us all the time as any loving parent thinks about their child. Of course, the future that has been laid out for us is a “potential future” that depends on our decisions.

Not only that, but God is so invested in us and our individual lives, that he gave his only begotten Son as a sacrifice for our sins, so that we could fulfill his purposes for us and know his love forever. He has also had to chase down many of us who ran from him as prodigals if he were the enemy. Think about how much time, energy, and resources God spent keeping you alive until he could chase you down and draw you back to him. Angels have been assigned to you, hundreds of “divine appointments” have been arranged and orchestrated, and thousands of prayers have been answered. He has deposited his Spirit in you who has made you better and has delivered you from yourself and the enemy time and again. Jesus has even gone to prepare a place just for you and will come back and take you with him…and he will know your name without a roster or a name tag. He will know everything about you – all your hurts, hopes, and successes.

God has given us both identity and value in abundance if we will simply open ourselves up to him. Jesus said that the Father not only knows our name, but even the number of hairs on our head. Satan is the one who steals and hides our identity, and then coaxes us to search for it in every place but the only place we can truly find it. If we don’t know who we are, we should ask the one who made us rather than a world that has rebelled.

If the world had the answer, depression, suicide, and homicide would be on the decrease rather than the increase. War would be known only in history books. If the world had the answer, celebrities would be the happiest and healthiest people in the world…but as a whole they are miserable and insecure…medicating, overdosing, failing at multiple marriages, and still in desperate search of something that gives their peace and lasting meaning.

Identity is the key to a fulfilling life…knowing who we are and why we are is everything. If we read scripture with an eye to who we are in Christ, the realization that we are unique children of God – loved, valued, and known since before the creation of the world – will bring us into a place of worth and security that the entire world is desperately looking for. Only God can truly tell you who you are and why you are. Listen to him!