Not too long ago, I received an email from a mother that speaks to a lot of issues many parents are facing in our culture.  I thought I would share a response that might be helpful to those reading this blog or someone they know. She wrote…

Pastor Tom….My son is a young teenager, and he’s dealing with a lot of things. He’s been depressed, had more than one suicide attempts, he’s doing drugs, he’s very angry. He’s seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist and they’re throwing around some diagnoses that don’t seem to be affective or on target. I believe the issue is 100% spiritual warfare, demonic oppression… all that stuff. He was telling me that at one point not too long ago he had made a decision to actually follow Satan. I know that that can bring a lot of things spiritually into his life. He isn’t able to say, Jesus is Lord and Savior even though in the past, he’s told me that was the case. He says when he reads the Bible, he just gets angry and it makes him want to do things like cutting and doing self-destructive things. I definitely believe that mental illness is real, but I also believe that there’s a spiritual component here. My question is because, he’s not really willing to participate in any kind of like deliverance, how do I do that for my kid?

First, let me say that we have had many parents over the years express concerns that their children were being demonized and wondered what to so since the children were too young to make their own declarations or were unwilling to do so.  Demonization of children is not new.  

Mark tells us, “A man in the crowd answered, “Teacher, I brought you my son, who is possessed by a spirit that has robbed him of speech. Whenever it seizes him, it throws him to the ground. He foams at the mouth, gnashes his teeth and becomes rigid. I asked your disciples to drive out the spirit, but they could not.” “O unbelieving generation,” Jesus replied, “how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with you? Bring the boy to me.” So, they brought him. When the spirit saw Jesus, it immediately threw the boy into a convulsion. He fell to the ground and rolled around, foaming at the mouth. Jesus asked the boy’s father, “How long has he been like this?” From childhood,” he answered. “It has often thrown him into fire or water to kill him. But if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us” (Mark 9:17-23). 

Demons can enter children several ways.  They may come in through bloodlines from ancestors who have lived and died in sin without repentance.  This seems to be especially true when those ancestors were involved in sexual immorality, witchcraft and false worship, violence and severe trauma.  We see depression, anger, self-destructive behaviors including suicide attempts, etc. that often have come down through bloodlines. “Visiting the iniquities of the fathers upon the children down to the third and fourth generations” (Exodus 20:5).

They can also enter older children and especially teens when they have participated in witchcraft…psychic readings, video games with elements of witchcraft, pornography, seances at sleepovers, Ouija boards, etc. or when they have been exposed to their own trauma through abuse, the death of a parent or sibling, violence, or even scary movies. It is not uncommon that friends have introduced them to these things.

If you suspect or know that your child is under the influence of demons, here are a few responses to that situation.

As the parent, you have spiritual authority over your children.  Therefore, you can command demons to leave without your child having to make the declarations for themselves.  You can do so as they sleep which is best for small children. Authority does not have to be loud.  It simply needs to be firm and spoken by someone who knows they have authority.

You can do so with your older children and teens if they are open to it. You can do so in your teens room when they are not present, if that is necessary.  Be sure to anoint their rooms with oil and command any spirits in the room to leave and never return. 

Take an inventory of your child’s room and iphone or ipad.  Are there any objects, games, videos, magazines, music, posters, websites, etc., that glorify violence, witchcraft, new age activities, eastern religions, and so forth? These invite demonic spirits into your child’s space and, perhaps, into your child.  Take note of gifts that may have come from friends or family members who dabble in the occult or new age activities.  Sometimes demons come attached to objects that have been prayed over or blessed by those who serve false gods.  If you find them, you may need to remove them from the house.

If you are aware of generational sin that may have come through you to your child, you must acknowledge the sins of your ancestors, repent of the sin on behalf of your bloodline, and renounce them before commanding any spirits to leave. Always tell them to leave immediately and never return. 

If a child or teen has entered into some promise or covenant with Satan or some spirit other than the Holy Spirit, that covenant needs to be nullified. That covenant will give the enemy entrance to your child as long as it is allowed. However, in the same way that a twelve-year-old cannot legally enter into a contract without your involvement, that child cannot enter into a covenant with Satan without your involvement.  Therefore, by your authority as a parent and as a follower of Jesus, you can renounce the covenant and nullify it by the authority of Jesus and your authority as a parent.

Here is a sample declaration of how you might break any covenants made by your child with the enemy either because they were upset, angry or thought they were simply playing games. 

On behalf of my child, over whom God has given me spiritual authority, and in the name of Jesus, I declare that Elohim – the Father, Son and Holy Spirit – is the only true and living God and I totally surrender myself and my child to his Lordship. I renounce Satan and all the works of Satan.  I renounce all the spiritual forces of wickedness that rebel against God and the evil powers of this world that corrupt and destroy those God has created. I repent of and renounce all sinful desires that draw me and my child away from God. In the name of Jesus, I repent of and renounce any promises, covenants, agreements, dedications, or allegiances with Satan that were established by my child or spoken over my child by someone else. 

I plead the blood of Jesus over my bloodline and my child for forgiveness and repent of and renounce any agreements with Satan on his/her behalf. In the name of Jesus and by his authority, I declare all promises, covenants, agreements, dedications, and allegiances nullified and made void by the all-encompassing authority of Jesus Christ. By the authority of Christ and the sword of the Spirit, I sever myself and my child from all such covenants, agreements, or dedications and declare he/she is set free to serve Jesus alone.

In the name of Jesus, I also break and remove any and every seal of Satan that may have been established over him and declare that he is set free from these seals by the blood of Christ and the sword of the Spirit.  Amen.

You will need to make this declaration before you command any spirits of witchcraft to leave.  You may have to do all this several times over a period of days to break these demonic strongholds.   

Ultimately, our children need to know the dangers of crossing into enemy territory in the spiritual realm, but need to know more the power and authority that Jesus wields on behalf of his people. Children rarely can measure the consequences of their actions and will do and say and participate in things that seem fun or risky simply for the excitement or novelty.  That is part of immaturity, but we still need to teach and model spiritual awareness and the power and love of Jesus Christ in our lives.  From their earliest years they simply need to know…Jesus good.  Satan bad.