As a pastor, it is not uncommon to speak with believers who have been “offended by God” because he didn’t act in the way they thought he should. A child died, a marriage ended in divorce, a promotion was given to someone less deserving, and cancer was diagnosed in a young woman. All of these situations and more challenge our faith.
Here’s what we need to know. The enemy loves to whisper that God took the child, sent the cancer, and didn’t save the marriage when he could have. One of his primary strategies is to plant a seed of doubt in our minds about the goodness of God. That is the first diagram in his playbook. To entice them to sin, he sowed a seed of doubt in the minds of Adam and Eve about God’s heart for them. He insinuated that God might be withholding good things and even the best things from them because he didn’t completely love them. In response, they took offense at God and ate the forbidden fruit.
It is human to hope that God keeps every crisis and every tragedy from us from the time we are born until we step across the threshold of heaven. But that is not what we are promised. Every person of faith in scripture dealt with trials. Jesus told his disciples, “In this world you will have trouble (Jn.16:33). Paul reminds us, “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles” (2 Cor. 1:3-4). We will be in trouble. We could list dozens of other scriptures that confirm our dilemma.
Many times, God does keep tragedy and disappointment from our door. But there are other times when we have to face the harsh realities of living in a fallen and hostile world. The promise is not a trouble-free life, but that God will meet us in our troubles and give us the grace to endure. He will then set us on a level place with seasons of blessing again.
The difficulty is in holding on when what we are experiencing doesn’t make sense to us or rubs against our understanding of how God works. However, when things go our way and make sense, not much faith is required. Greater faith is required when we are facing that which doesn’t go our way or meet our expectations. What do we do when we believe we had faith for healing, but our loved one died anyway? What do we do when we believe we stood on the promises of God, but our marriage dissolved in spite of that? What do we do when we have cried out to the Lord for years but God has not yet sent us a mate or given us a pregnancy?
Those are the moments that Satan rushes in to accuse the Lord. If we are not careful, we will believe the accusations, judge God as unjust or uncaring, and distance ourselves from him. We may deny it, but somewhere deep within we may hold a grudge against our Creator. Our view of him will be tarnished and our prayers will lack conviction.
We will all have to face a mystery at some point about unanswered prayers. So how do we face that moment? We must learn to judge God on the basis of what we do understand, rather than on the basis of what we don’t understand. When Satan comes to accuse, we must already know what we believe about God and stand on his Word and our past experiences with his faithfulness.
I believe the definitive verse in scripture comes from the mouth of Jesus. “If you have seen me, you have seen the Father” (Jn.14:9). How much does God love us? How much did Jesus love us? How much is God willing to sacrifice for us to be saved? How much was Jesus willing to sacrifice? Is God willing to heal? Was Jesus willing to heal? Does God send tragedy? Did Jesus send tragedy? Does God drive away the imperfect and broken sinner? Did Jesus drive them away?
No matter what, our faith must rest not only in the power of God but also in the character and the goodness of God. We must make up our mind about him before the accuser comes. We have to be able to say. “Even though I am disappointed and confused, I still believe God is good and that he loves me. He will see me through this and set me once again on a level place.”
How often have we judged God to be unfair or unloving because of one prayer he didn’t answer while ignoring the hundreds that he did answer and the way he cared for us even when we had not prayed? Take note of God’s care now and all the ways he has loved you, so when the accuser comes, you can take your stand.
Job could make no sense of the tragedies that had come his way. He asked lots of questions. He wrestled with the mystery of the loss and suffering he encountered although he was a righteous man. But in the end, God declared that Job had not failed to speak the truth about God and so God restored his losses and blessed his life in greater ways than before his suffering. Remember the old saying, “God is good…all the time. When we are not sure of anything else, we can be sure of that and, being sure of that, we can hold on through the fires.